Finding my blog-life balance

There are going to be a few changes around here.

I mentioned in my post 10 things I’ve learnt in my first month of blogging that I was spending every spare moment blogging and staying up late every night. 2 1/2 months later I can report that this hasn’t changed. But a conversation with my husband this week has reminded me that some things are more important than blogging. My marriage, for example. S misses his wife, he misses spending time together, going to bed at the same time. And so do I.

Blog-life balanceThere are so many blogs out there that will explain how to make money blogging or grow your blog. It’s fantastic to get tips like this from pro-bloggers and I really admire the dedication and hard work that must have gone into developing their blogs and growing their followers. However, these posts only seem to feed my obsession with stats and growing my blog.

For a completely different approach I absolutely love reading Discovering Work-Life Harmony. Helen doesn’t post very regularly and her focus is on striking a balance between blogging, work and life, rather than having amazing stats or making a living from blogging. It makes for really refreshing reading.

So it’s time for me to re-examine my blog-life balance.

I’m going to be cutting back on how often I post. I’ve found myself becoming a slave to a self-imposed schedule. It adds pressure that I don’t really need for something that’s supposed to be enjoyable.

My weekly round-ups will be going as they were taking too much time. I’ll be doing monthly ones instead.

I will no longer be posting recipes every week (to be fair, I’d kind of stopped this anyway), but on an ad hoc basis instead.

I’ll aim to post 3 times a week, but if I only manage two posts, oh well sh*t happens.

I’ll try to join in linkies where possible but only when I really have time. I will be prioritising my favourites, but can’t promise to link up every week/month:

I’m going to try not to obsess/cry over my stats any more, and instead appreciate my wonderful select group of readers (including my lovely S who reads every post).

And, most importantly of all, I’ll be going to bed at the same time as my husband every evening.

How do you manage to strike a good blog-life balance? Do you have any tips? I’d love to hear them.

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20 thoughts on “Finding my blog-life balance

  1. Katie

    I just blog when I can – no schedule, no pressure. Family comes first. Sleep is a VERY close second. If I have to choose between sleeping and blogging, sleep wins every time.

    Oh, and I never look at stats. I just try to focus on blogging for the joy of it. The readers will come – or not. It’s all okay as long as I still enjoy writing.
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    • Helen Post author

      What a great blogging philosophy! I used to love sleep, I just seem not to need as much of it any more (probably helped by T not sleeping through regularly until he was 15 months). I wish I could never look at my stats and just blog for the joy of it. I love writing, but I also love to know that people are reading what I’m writing too! Your blog is great so I’m sure the readers will come xx

  2. Laura's Lovely Blog

    I had a bit of a change of focus when I came back from holiday. I set aside blog free evenings as my level of blogging was starting to drive my husband mad. I do try to try and blog eveyday as I am trying to earn some income from it. But at the same time if there a couple of days where something doesn’t happen I am ok with that now. I have no idea how the people that do multiple posts a day manage I really don’t! Good luck finding the right balance for you x
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    • Helen Post author

      Thanks Laura! I definitely need to try and have more blog-free evenings. I try to have one evening a week without blogging, but I don’t even manage that some weeks. I know what you mean- I struggle with even one post a day and then see people publishing multiple posts per day and being active on social media- where do they find the time?! x

  3. Jessica @ModernMomsLife

    Great post – I am struggling with striking a balance as well. Or maybe I’m struggling with letting go of the idea of being a successful blogger right away. Either way I feel your pain! I hope you find your balance – I’m still searching for mine. I try really hard to not compare my output with others as I really have no idea what goes on in other people’s lives. For me, the family time (and getting enough sleep!) are higher on my priority list than posting in my blog multiple times a week. Best of luck to you!
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    • Helen Post author

      Thanks for visiting and commenting! In a way I’m glad that other people struggle with this too. I think I was too focused on growing my blog and improving my stats- I need to be less worried about this and just blog for the enjoyment of it 🙂 I hope you find your balance too! Xx

  4. Sarah HP

    I so get this! I think for me I have to remind myself what starting my b,of was about, having fun, getting a chance to write and documenting my family experience. It was never about making money or running it like a business. I’m really clear it is a hobby, one that I want to do really well but in balance with 3 kids, a full on job and a family business. I definitely underestimated the amount of time that it would take up, not so much the writing but the promotion of my posts. I have always aimed for 2 posts per week and now do a little quote of the week as well. Anything else is definitely a bonus. I think a slow and steady pace will stop me running out of steam by going for it too much and burning out my enjoyment and ideas.
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    • Helen Post author

      Thanks for commenting, Sarah! Although not the primary reason for starting the blog, I was keen to make some pocket money from it. I think that may have been what spurred me on to promoting and trying to grow the blog, and you’re right- that really takes so much time! I’ve realised that it really is a hobby and shouldn’t be at the expense of the more important things in my life.

  5. Angela at Daysinbed

    I have blog free days when i just rest due to illness but then I try and play catch up in the evenings/nights.

    It is important to get the balance right. I do think this takes a lot of time up and those doing it hard out are clearly sacrificing other things.

    I did make a plan of what I would and would not do. I find so many people ask me to join linkys and i simply cannot but i do retweet them all on twitter!

    thanks for a food for thought post!

    Angela x
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    • Helen Post author

      It must be so difficult to blog when you’re unwell, I think you’re amazing 🙂

      I always feel so guilty when I just don’t have the time to do more linkies, I think that probably makes me join in more than I would otherwise! I also always retweet! Xx

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  6. Mummymelton

    I used to beat myself up if u didn’t blog every day, I’d panic about my stats, etc. I work full time, I’m not super woman, if I dont blog the world won’t end & I need time for me & my family. It took a while for me to be OK with that but I’m glad I am otherwise I’d drive myself mad. Hope you find that balance xx
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    • Helen Post author

      I don’t think the world will end if I don’t blog- but that’s not a risk I’m willing to take 😉 I’m glad you’ve managed to find a balance that works for you xx

  7. Rachel (Lifeofmyfamilyandme)

    I don’t blog every day. I tried last year but got sucked into the stats, followers and trying to compete with other Bloggers i very nearly deactivated my blog – twice! Since January i have become a ‘part time’ blogger who blogs when i have something to write and when i have the time. I love my blog again! I have 2 evenings off a week so i have time with my Husband too. Weekends i tend not to do too much because that’s my quality family time. I hope you find a balance that works for you xx
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    • Helen Post author

      It sounds like you have a perfect blog-life balance! I really need to take a leaf out of your book! I’m so glad you didn’t deactivate your blog 🙂 xx

    • Helen Post author

      I hope you find your balance soon. I’m still working on it. I’ve noticed an improvement already just by cutting back on the number of times I post in a week. My stats are suffering from lack of promotion though, which does make me feel a little sad. Glad you like Discovering Work-Life Harmony, it’s one of my favourite blogs 🙂 xx

  8. Kate Davis

    Well done on your revelation and coming up with an action plan. I would like to write more posts but I’m struggling to keep to my goal of 4 posts a month so I’m not going to push myself to things that are currently unrealistic. I think it is important to remember why you enjoy blogging and make sure you retain it.
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  9. HelenWLH

    Thank you so much for your lovely kind words about my blog Helen. So glad you enjoy it. I’ll be adding new content soon 🙂 Hope you found your blog-life balance! Hx


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