Yesterday T woke up grumpy from his nap so I gave him lots of cuddles. Then he lay down with his little head in my lap and I stroked his face and hair for ages. At one point I took my hand off his face and he reached for my hand and put it back. Then we went downstairs and sat cuddling and reading stories. It was one of those golden moments when motherhood is awesome.
It got me thinking though. If you read my post about deciding when to have number 2, you’ll know that S and I are hoping to have another baby. My beautiful bonding time with T yesterday wouldn’t have been quite the same if I had been trying to calm a colicky newborn at the same time. And what if baby number two wanted me to sit on the floor lovingly stroking their face? How could I manage to do that with a boisterous toddler trying to destroy the house while my back was turned?
What happens to these golden moments if you have another baby? I’m worried that I would miss out on precious times like this with T because I’d be treading water day after day, trying not to drown in a sea of nappies and washing, a screaming newborn attached to my boob. I’m worried that baby number 2 wouldn’t get the same quality time that T gets in abundance because they would always be trying to compete for Mummy’s attention with the precious first born.
So, mums with more than one, please tell me it’s not all bad. What do you love about having more than one child?